Can you remember the first time you felt REJECTED from your tribe? I can. 😳

Nathaly Granja
Sep 24, 2024
4 min read

THIS WEEKS CUPPA….🫖

Hellloooo my beautiful friends,

Let's talk about home.

Not the place you find yourself residing in per se, but real home.

The kind Maya Angelou spoke of when she said, “I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.”

Here's where it gets tricky… all of us have been conditioned to believe that home—belonging—means homogenizing…being the same… doing what's been done before, staying loyal to the tribal systems we were born into.

Staying loyal to the status quo of your family norms,

the status quo of your cultural norms,

the status quo:

…for people your age,

…for people with your gender,

…for people in your line of work,

…for people with your level of education,

…for people with your severity of trauma,

…for people who speak your native tongue,

…for people with families like yours,

…for people with childhoods like yours,

…for people in your faith group

…for people who have lost it all in the past,

…for people with bodies like yours,

…for people who are married,

…for people who aren't,

…for people who didn't get it “right” the first time

…for people like you.

And whether we realize it or not, that conditioning has us pushing away anything that is going to bring extra attention, projections, rejection, fear, shame— disruption. For example…. being RICH, WEALTHY, SUCCESSFUL, ABUNDANT.

this is quite literally not the norm for most people. it's unrelatable. and there are soooo many stories (on purpose btw) that make being rich--icky or prickly

Ancestrally, our survival depended on staying with our tribe. being accepted by our tribe.

being different was literally unsafe and life threatening.

But I'm sure you can see this in your own life experience.

One of my earliest memories of feeling painfully different, a sharp anxiety in my body that made me want to HIDE-- was on the first day of first grade. I was six.

Everyone had pulled out their identical Crayola crayons, markers, and colored pencils. Every single kid had the exact same supplies—except for me.

It was my dad's turn to buy school supplies that year (divorced parents, you know how it goes), and in true artist fashion, he gifted me Caran d'Ache coloring utensils—literally some of the best crayons money can buy.

These crayons were made for artists, designed to stay resist light exposure (lightfastness). Art was just a part of life for my dad, so naturally, he always encouraged our art with top-notch supplies.

But six-year-old me didn't give a flying fvck about having the best.

I just wanted Crayolas, like everyone else. I hated that feeling of standing out. I hated the feeling of people looking at my crayons with confusion. I literally hid my crayons for the rest of the day.

To stand out for many of us means risking rejection.

And so, we play by the rules.

yes even the most audacious of us--can get caught up with this form of self preservation--after all WHO DOESN'T want to belong?

Steep this :

In this very moment, in some way-- you are playing smaller, hiding, not letting yourself be seen for your gift, your art, your bigness, what makes you different and amazing--in this very moment, in some way-- you are blocking your ability to become richer and richer.

Yes, even you Aquarius who think “i have no problem standing out”--I promise you, there is a way in which you're hiding. it's human.

The real tea? :

Illuminate. Alchemize. And choose something different.

The tricky part is that sometimes we can't see how we're getting in our own way.

Maybe you've noticed that you feel more at home when you're not getting what you want.

And so, consistently attaining wealth, success, or visibility feels foreign—and unsafe.

I see this at every level of income. Even my multiple seven-figure clients find sneakier, more sophisticated ways to hide than those who are in earlier phases of biz development.

You deserve to feel at home in your success, in your satisfaction, in your peace, in your surprise, in your wealth.

And that often means walking away from the safety of your “tribe” to pave a new path—one that you get to create. One that you bring back to your community, with a new kind of wisdom, a new elixir of possibility. But it starts with you.

WHAT'S BREWING OVER HERE

I'm back from my trip to Peru which was soooo nourishing! We drank lot's of coca tea, to help our body with the altitude. I'll be stateside for another week until i spend a month in London, visiting all the fanciest afternoon tea spots. hehehe.

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